The argument free marriage | Fawn Weaver | TEDxPortland

Can you create an argument free marriage?
Can you really go without arguing?

What do you think?

Can you agree to disagree?

What is the law of acceleration?

Successful organizations know how to handle Crucial conversations – Joseph Grenny

How do you handle important conversations in your organization?

When is a conversation a crucial conversation?

How do you manage anger?

How do you avoid being disrespectful?

What story are you telling yourself

ten different people called me. I missed their calls, because I was busy doing one thing or the other. They all had 10 different reactions.

one said she must be busy, I’ll call her back

one said she’s usually in a meeting at this tim, she’ll probably call me back

one said she’s always ignoring my calls, let me try using a different number

one said I think she hates me

one said I hope I haven’t lost her as a friend

one said I hope she’s feeling okay, she usually picks up my call

one said oops I called her by accident

one said I will never call her again

one said I will send her a text

Ten different people, ten different responses. Who do you think was right? Does it even matter who is right? If you were the one what would be your response?

Is the story you’re telling yourself about your experiences right? or are you just assuming? If it’s not right, how can you change it?

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Human trafficking is all around you. This is how it works – TedTalks

What do you think about Human Trafficking?

Do you think it’s still prevalent? Do you think it doesn’t affect you?

How can you help? How can you reduce trafficking?

Behind the everyday bargains we all love — the $10 manicure, the unlimited shrimp buffet — is a hidden world of people bought and sold to keep those prices at rock bottom. Noy Thrupkaew investigates the human trafficking industry – which flourishes in the US and Europe, as well as developing countries – and shows us the human faces behind the illegal labor that feeds global consumers.

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Don’t push me ‘cos I’m close to the edge

We should all walk around wearing that sign, you know the sign – the one that says:

“Don’t push me ‘cos I’m close to the edge.”

Many of us are very close to the edge. Some are closer than others.

Is it just me or do we sometimes hear something and not quite fully understand the meaning, until later. And even when we think we understand the meaning, something else may happen even later, and the words become even more meaningful.

That’s the beauty of words – they can be multi-faceted.

And now when I think about those words – “Don’t push me, ‘cos I’m close to the edge,” I think about how we use our words to push people.

There are times when we use our words to cut people. We use our words as knives to attack and to belittle, not realizing how close to the edge we are pushing ourselves, when we try to push others to the edge.

Let us be mindful that even when we use innocent words, we can push people the wrong way – just because they were already close to the edge. And let us also be mindful that just because we’re so close to the edge, doesn’t mean that someone is actually pushing us – perhaps the whole time instead of making the statement to others, we really should have been speaking to ourselves.

How about you? What are your thoughts?

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If you can’t help yourself, it’s not love

I love love

I love love songs…

But I think when you’re single, love songs can be incredibly delusional. I remember when I was single, one of my favorite love songs went like this:

Lost without you, can’t help myself.

How does it feel to know that i love you baby?

Back then it made sense. When someone said they loved  you, when they said they couldn’t help themselves and the intensity of the emotion they felt for you. You ate it up, and beamed – oh to be loved!

But the truth is that whenever you can’t control your emotions, then it’s madness, not love. True Love is a choice. He can love someone else, but my husband chooses to love me everyday. And because he has a choice, it makes his love all the more valuable.

If you’re deciding on love today, please I beg you, choose the person who chooses to love you and not the mad person who can’t help himself. #Madness

mad love

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Just Because you’re offended

There are so many things that people expect when they are offended. Some people expect their bosses to baby them, some expect their parents to give them everything they want, some expect their friends to always be on their side… truth is that’s not life… Here is what being offended Does NOT mean:

JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE OFFENDED-

  1. Doesn’t mean you’re right
  2. Doesn’t mean you’re wrong
  3. Doesn’t mean you deserve an apology
  4. Doesn’t mean you have to get an apology
  5. Doesn’t mean nobody cares about you
  6. Doesn’t mean life is cruel
  7. Doesn’t mean you are too fragile
  8. Doesn’t mean your life is over
  9. Doesn’t mean you have to keep a grudge
  10. Doesn’t mean the same thing will always offend you
  11. Doesn’t mean you can’t learn from the experience
  12. Doesn’t mean the offender doesn’t love you
  13. Doesn’t mean the friendship is over
  14. Doesn’t mean the offender purposely wants to hurt you
  15. Doesn’t mean you are owed anything
  16. Doesn’t mean…

I guess I could continue the list forever.

What are your thoughts?

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Sir Ken Robinson: Do schools kill creativity?

What are your thoughts on Schools?

What are your thoughts on the educational system today?

What are your thoughts on creativity

Do you consider yourself creative? Why or why not?

If you could change anything about the current educational system what would it be?

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Ken Robinson: How to escape education’s death valley

Sir Ken Robinson outlines 3 principles crucial for the human mind to flourish — and how current education culture works against them. In a funny, stirring talk he tells us how to get out of the educational “death valley” we now face, and how to nurture our youngest generations with a climate of possibility.

What are your thoughts about the current education system?

How can we fix it?

What did you enjoy about school? What didn’t you enjoy?

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I know what it means to be the other

I don’t know what it is to be Black in America, like some people have experienced. I don’t even know what it means to be a woman in a predominantly male career, to the extent that others have experienced.

But I know what it means to be the other.

I know what it means to be dating a White guy, and Black guys on the street jump in front of the two of you walking and ask you if you want a real man instead, or people run out of their houses to watch the two of you walking down the street together.

I know what it means to date a Ghanian as a Nigerian, and listen to his group of friends laughing without reserve as they recite every insulting Nigerian joke they can think of, or people telling you that they are not interested in a serious relationship, because they have long decided that they would marry a Cameroonian, and you – no matter how wonderful you are – are not Cameroonian.

I know what it means to be told that you are not the ideal candidate for marriage because you – no matter how wonderful you are – are not a Yoruba-Nigerian.

I know what it means to be told that although the two of us are from the same Edo state in Nigeria, you are from the Akoko Edo tribe, and I am from the Benin Tribe, therefore it wouldn’t work between us.

I know what it’s like to be the other… from the largest group to the smallest group.

Perhaps our problem is not racism, or tribalism, or sexism, or agism. Perhaps our problem is Otherism. Perhaps we have fallen for the fallacy that anything different from us, is the Other, and hence dangerous. Perhaps we have fallen for the other fallacy that anything similar to us is same, and therefor safe.

We created this shortcut in our brain many years ago, but time and time again, we have found it to be wrong, but yet we continue.

I hope you will never be a victim of otherism, but even as I write this, I’m sure you will.

Other

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