Nobody owes you anything

I once got a job earning $15.50 to do nothing.

It seemed the interviewer and the training manager did not communicate or something, because a few of us began the job while the training manager was on vacation. Instead of asking us to resume when the training manager returned, they instead looked for busy work for us to do. I didn’t mind. It was pretty good money, and after working 40 hrs a week, I had more than enough to pay my rent, utilities, and even afford a few movies and restaurant visits.

After a few months, I found out that I had gotten accepted to my grad school of choice, and on a full scholarship. But the challenge was that I would need to work a different shift at work, and even work at most – part time.

I went up to my supervisor, and asked to speak with her. I told her about how excited I was about this school opportunity, but how committed I was to the job, and how I would be willing to work any amount of time if I could just keep my job.

To which she graciously declined my offer. No there was no part time position, and no I would not keep getting paid to do nothing and go back to school. I had to pick one.

As sweet as the job offer was, I chose school instead.

I felt terrible at the time. I needed money. I always needed money, and now I was losing my sweet job. But they didn’t owe me the job.

I’ve come to realize since then that nobody owes me anything.

You as well, nobody owes you anything. Be thankful if you have great parents. And if you have terrible parents, remember that they too, don’t owe you anything.

Your boss doesn’t owe you anything. Your friends don’t owe you anything, your teachers don’t owe you anything, and your government definitely doesn’t owe you anything.

The only one that owes you something is you.

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Why do people steal

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about stealing. It’s easy to say that we are all innately wicked, and that is why we steal, but I’ve been wondering…

Some say it’s because of poverty, but I know people raised poor who don’t steal. They may have stolen when they were younger, but for whatever reason no longer choose to steal.

Some say it’s because they were raised not to steal, but I know people raised not to steal – perhaps even pastors’ kids, who steal at the drop of a hat.

The only reason I can conclude with would be a lack of fear of God. And by fear, I’m not talking about trembling and afraid. I’m talking about realizing that our decisions mean something to God, and that God cares about what we do, and that there are consequences for every action.

People steal, and they will continue to, until the end of time, I just wish we understood this urge more, and were able to help people to choose a better choice – a choice that is less harmful, and more beneficial to society in general.

Why do you think people steal?

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Competition is the solution to a lot of Nigerian problems – ShopriteNG

I go to a store that I don’t enjoy going to. But they are the only ones around my area that sell the coconut milk that I like.

I go to Shoprite Nigeria often, because they are the only ones that sell a variety of items in one location.

I purchase from Nigerian online stores sometimes, because it’s easier than trying to go to the market, struggling for parking, searching for the item, not sure if what you’re purchasing is counterfeit and then coming back home exhausted.

But all of these places have failed me many times, and I wish I could stop, but these are items I would like to purchase and I don’t have a better choice.

I’m daring us as Nigerians to start creating better choices. Let us stop thinking about how much money we can hoard for our generations, and think how we can serve our people – because you know what? If you can provide us with something better, we will reimburse you with all that money that is right now going to South Africa.

The other day, my cousin was pick pocketed in Shoprite Ikeja, and all the people could say was sorry. Their cameras are only focused on the Tills, and only because they don’t want us stealing their money, but they don’t care about customers being stolen from, or being attacked. All they can say is sorry.

I’m tired of hearing “sorry.” Sorry not sorry. If you’re really sorry you will make changes. If you’re really sorry you will fix the problems. But you’re not sorry, you just think that’s what we want to hear.

It’s not.

Competition will solve a lot of these problems. And Competition is here – Let’s go to Ebeano instead – it’s not the greatest, but it’s much better.

 

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No grade for effort

In the real world there is no grade for effort.

I think school has spoiled us. If we ever had a good teacher, an encouraging teacher, she would always grade us based on our effort, and our willingness to try. Some people, I think, never get past that. They keep thinking that they should be pardoned because they tried, or that they should be celebrated because at least they attempted…

But that is not how life works. No one pays for the “almost” solution, no one praises the one who didn’t quite make it. Yes I believe that people are quick to forget your past failures (in business), but that is only after you have succeeded.

So young people, the truth is, as a person trying to make money from other people, you don’t have the luxury of “almost getting it right” or “trying to get it right.” In the words of Yoda, you either do or you don’t there is no try. There is no reward for almost, or for the effort of getting to almost – except your own personal reward of accomplishment, and the knowledge you gained through the experience. But as far as me giving you my hard earned money just because you tried… well my dear it’s not going to happen. The real world pays for real results. You pay school to encourage your journey, and your effort.

Don’t confuse the difference, and you will go far in life.

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This Girl is on fire

Ever since we watched the Gabby Douglas movie, my niece has loved the song with those lyrics. And whenever we want to get her hyped up, we begin singing the song.

I’ve been reading a lot lately, and doing some different things, and I’ve been feeling like my brain is on fire. I’m in love with life and with learning. It feels as if I’m thinking straighter, full of ideas, and learning so much.

The past few weeks have been full of opportunities to get discouraged, but because my focus has been on other things, I haven’t been discouraged. I have begun to expect amazing things to happen, and they have been happening… I know I sound a little unstable, but that’s what happens when your brain is on fire.

What things have you wanted to learn, but you’ve been delaying? Why not find a way to learn them this weekend. What activities have you been planning to try, but you’ve been procrastinating? Why not give them a try this weekend. What things have you been so afraid to try? Perhaps it’s time to get out of your comfort zone, do some amazing things… and begin to sing to yourself “this girl is on fire!”

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Stay Curious

There are so many things I’m curious about.

Like how do people born in the same family have different personalities? or how does someone survive in Nigeria and maintain some form of honesty? or how did the space shuttle really land on the moon? How did someone ever think about inventing a car?

How was music first invented? How did human beings even understand how to procreate? How do businesses go from death to life? How does a girl’s body keep the dna program that tells it to develop into a woman at a certain time? When does a girl become a woman – physically, emotionally, mentally? What would life have been like if I made decision A, or B, or 5, or 9?

What was going through a person’s mind when they decided to build a train track or a train? What was going through my mind today, that kept me from being my best?

etc. etc. etc.

The more I read, the more I know, the more I know I don’t know, the more I want to read.

What are you curious about?

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Prostitution, Economics, and Free Love

Prostitutes prices are going down

Prostitutes are leaving the job

Is this good news?

Maybe…except that…

One of the reasons prices are going down is the availability of “friends with benefits,” and “one night stands.”

Isn’t that interesting… it almost seems that Prostitutes value themselves more than some of the ladies today.

 

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Julian Treasure: How to speak so that people want to listen

Do you speak, and people don’t listen?

Do you wish that people would listen to what you have to say?

Do you wish that people would stop misinterpreting your comments?

Do you want to become a better speaker, and a better human being?

Then watch the video below:

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Sometimes things resolve themselves

I’m an avid believer in Social media and telecommunication. When I’m contacted, I try to respond quickly… but sometimes I’m learning to just let things alone.

The other day I accidentally left my phone silent, and missed some important calls. By the time I finally remembered to pick up my phone, and began returning the calls, I found out that the issues had been resolved.

Sometimes things just have a funny way of resolving themselves.

If you don’t respond via email, or you don’t pick up your calls, you would be surprised that the world still goes on… which can also be a little humbling…

So why don’t you try turning off your phone for a few hours, you never know… perhaps that thing you think is an emergency is really not.

Some things resolve themselves.

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Happy Father’s Day 2015

It’s father’s day again – Time to celebrate the fathers who take fatherhood seriously.

To my Husband – You are the most amazing father. It’s a privilege to watch you everyday, the way you take care of us, and take care of your daughter. There is no doubt that your family is important to you. Thank you, thank you, thank you! that’s all I can say.

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To my Father – Thank you for letting me know that I will always be your princess. Thank you for loving our mother so well, and so sacrificially. You let me know how valuable I am, from a young age, and because of you, I am.

To my Brother – Fatherhood has brought even more amazingness out of you. You were the first father I was able to observe (outside of our father), that gave me hope that fathers could still have a great relationship with their children. Thank you for your regular sacrifice for them

To my Boss – Thank you for being a mentor and a father to all of us.

And to all the father’s out there – We truly truly appreciate you. Yes we may act like we can do it without you, but truth be told, to the good ones like you, we need you desperately! – Enjoy your soap on a rope :-)

Happy Father’s day 2015

 

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