Make it work: Perfection doesn’t exist

I’ve been writing a lot about breakups, perhaps because it’s something that so many of us have experienced and are dealing with constantly. It’s been a great learning experience for me, and perhaps I’ll come back to it in the future.

But one of my friends said something that made me think about writing a series on making things work. What do you do when you’ve met a decent person and you want to make it work? What do you do when your whole life you’ve been pushing people away, and now you want to keep this one? So I’m beginning this new series on making it work.

I’m going to need all your help and feedback, so please let me know what you think.

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So let’s begin with the idea of perfection.

I want to marry prince charming, and I want him to take me off on his white horse and I want us to live happily ever after. I want to live the disney dream, where after I meet the right one, he solves all my problems, and brings me nothing but joy…

But sadly that guy doesn’t exist. There are many great guys out there, but they are not perfect. I once joked with my friend that if I could take the good I like from three of my guy friends, I would be able to create the perfect guy. And they’re probably thinking the same thing about me too.. đŸ™‚ (they better not let me catch them doing it though!)

But anyway, thankfully we only get to pick one. We only get to focus on on one. When we are with someone that is good, there will be things they do that may be absolutely disgusting to you, or things they do that you may not understand, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you should completely write them off. The beauty of a healthy relationship is that there are two imperfect people completely aware of their imperfection, yet trying to exist together despite their imperfection.

In the words of Dr. Myles Munroe, getting along with another person is “art.” The more you practice this artform, the better you will get at it.

So be patient with one another, don’t let imperfection surprise you. Expect it, embrace it, and move on, and hopefully they’ll do the same for yours.


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*This is a series on Making it work. To read the rest in the series click here.
Osayi is the Author of Impossible is Stupid (a book about living a fabulous life in every season), and she writes about how you can live a fulfilling life even if things don't turn out the way you expected them to. You can connect with her and find out more -

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